Recently, I had to confront a harsh truth about myself. As much as I don’t like to admit it, I’ve realized that people-pleasing and financial freedom are two sides of the same coin.
Have you ever stopped to think about how often our spending decisions are subtly influenced by what we believe others think is “classy” or “acceptable”? If we dig deep enough, we might find that we’re not just buying things with approval. I’ve been guilty of this too. Like many of you, I’ve found that the digital stage often dictates why I buy certain things.
I can’t scroll through Instagram for even two minutes without seeing someone posting their happy moments in a five-star restaurant I know would take me years to afford. And let me tell you, it’s not healthy—especially for someone like me, a recent graduate navigating this delicate phase of life.
Many of us, me included, get caught up in what our peers or society expect. We start spending to fit into what’s perceived as a “good lifestyle.” It’s exhausting. We make it our mission to prove we can afford the latest iPhone, shop in high-end stores, go on luxurious vacations, splurge on our kids or friend’s birthdays, drive high cc cars, or dine at fancy restaurants. And all for what? To keep up appearances.
Here’s what I’ve learned: There’s no glory in poverty but spending to prove you’re not poor is its own kind of poverty. As long as I spend to impress financial freedom will remain an idea, never a reality to me.
Living below my means, or what I now call Simplified Abundance, has revealed itself as a disguised ticket to Financial freedom. I’ve realized that wealth isn’t about what I show off—it’s about what I have left after all the spending. I can post a picture to prove I’m doing well, but if my Mpesa balance is crying in the corner, what’s the point?
Simplified Abundance doesn’t mean deprivation. It means strategy. It’s about taking a good look at my life and asking, “What really matters to me?” Is it the fleeting applause of Instagram followers, or the peace of mind that comes from knowing my future is secure? I have realized no one is going to kill me for shopping in Gikomba or even buying some items on the streets.
Living this way isn’t about saying “no” to everything fun. It’s about saying “yes” to the things that truly matter. And here’s another truth I’ve come to embrace: Being broke after impressing others is nothing like being broke after investing for my future.
So, I’ve made my choice—I’m choosing my broke wisely.
What really matters to you, dear reader? What does financial freedom look like to you? Define it selfishly. Make it about your goals, not society’s expectations. Don’t let the pressure of keeping up with others lead you to retire poor.
A Final Thought
Your journey to financial freedom doesn’t have to mirror anyone else’s. It’s a deeply personal path, shaped by your priorities, values, and dreams. Let go of the weight of societal expectations and embrace the power of intentional living. True wealth isn’t measured by possessions but by peace of mind and the freedom to live life on your terms.
Remember, every financial decision you make today writes the story of your future. Make it a legacy worth leaving behind, not just a moment of fleeting approval. Choose wisely, and always prioritize what truly matters to you.
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